WHAT IS COMMUNICATION FOR LIFE?
Communication for Life is a way of speaking and listening, and understanding Life, that supports us to stay engaged in Life - open, curious. It is an understanding of Life that inspires compassion, trust, respect, courage, acceptance, connection and strength.
Communication for Life is based on the following principles of Nonviolent Communication (named after Gandhi’s term ‘nonviolence’ to describe our natural compassionate state), developed in the 60s by Dr Marshall Rosenberg.Click here to read more
“I am blown away by how far my partner and I have come with this course. Our relationship has transformed, he is my best friend now! I have rebuilt trust with him. I am no longer defined by my past. Of course we all still carry some pain from what has happened, but the major shift is we are no longer compounding it, we are healing it! The way of life we had been leading for so many years had left many scars and a lot of fear and mistrust. Things don’t just magically disappear. The past needed to be properly acknowledged and worked through. This programme did just that. It has without a doubt given us the tools to stop the cycle of violence and changed ours and our children’s lives. We both sincerely hope other couples are given the amazing opportunity that we have had."Participant in NVC course for couples with history of domestic violence
"Jocelyn mediated a series of sessions between myself and the father of my first child after the situation between us became intensely stressful and aggressive. I found working with her incredibly valuable, and was impressed at her ability to stay connected to both our needs without "taking sides". She was brilliant at helping us tease out the issues that we were dealing with, and throwing light on them in a way that allowed us to progress much faster than I would've expected. While the gentleness that one might first meet in Jocelyn was certainly a part of our sessions, she was also direct and challenging when this was required. This created a lovely balance for me in terms of my need for care, and also my need to deal with the real guts of things. In this way, I see Jocelyn as really committed to helping people face the juicy stuff that needs to be addressed for genuine change to take place."Meg Stone
"I recently attended a Non Violent Communication course run by Jocelyn Kennedy and have found the learning to help me really think about what I want to say and how to say it. This type of communication is appropriate for any relationship or communication between people, including myself! Amazing how the heat of conflict can be minimized, simply by using different words and acknowledging how the other person feels and their point of view. With a four year old daughter, I understand that one of the best gifts as parents we can give her, is effective communication, effective communication is the key to so many locks that hold us back, I now notice her using feeling words a lot more which as a parent makes it much easier to solve any issues. It also helps her to deal with frustration and anger more effectively by knowing what it is and acknowledging it. Like me she doesn’t always get what she wants, but the end result is so much more validating."Sharon Jenkinson, Foundation course participant
“Jocelyn came to our community at a time when we were deeply divided through a conflict we didn’t know how to resolve. She facilitated an NVC foundation course and mediation sessions with the whole group, individuals and small groups. The workshop showed us that our approach to conflict was seriously flawed and would continue to create division. Instead, Jocelyn was able to demonstrate very effectively how the NVC method for dealing with conflict allows you to not only better understand your own feelings and needs but also the feelings and needs of others. This new understanding created a space within our group to empathise with each other and to reconnect. It was the beginning of a much needed healing process for our community but most importantly it gave us the skills to avoid future conflicts spiralling out of control. I would recommend Jocelyn Kennedy as an NVC instructor to any group wanting to learn new and more effective ways to deal with conflict.”Shane
“Jocelyn’s authenticity, lightness and humour are so inspiring. Her depth of understanding of NVC is very apparent and her ‘realness’ and regard really shine through.”Yavanna, Foundation course participant
"My husband and I recently participated in numerous mediation sessions with Jocelyn Kennedy. Before meeting Jocelyn, my husband and I had tried various therapists, counsellors and psychologists. Jocelyn stood out immediately. She is so genuine and committed to helping people connect. We both felt comfortable with her straight away. Jocelyn is very real, present and vibrant. I am always surprised by her refreshing lack of judgement and her compassion. She has offered us a huge gift which has empowered us to be able to communicate through conflict in a way that is respectful of our own needs and each others needs.. Nonviolent communication through our work with Jocelyn has rekindled a curiosity about each other so that our relationship feels so much more alive and vibrant. Jocelyn has so much experience and so many skills when it comes to communication. In her mediation work, everything is kept fresh and in the moment. Jocelyn is a small woman with guts. Thank you Jocelyn for helping me to become more empowered in my life and my relationships."Lauren Smith
"Jocelyn's workshop helped me to get interested in what are the stories that I have about the person that I am upset with and also understand what might be going on for them. It also helps me to identify the needs that haven’t been met for both parties, and take things less personally."Peter Visser
"We are now practicing NVC at home and have noticed positive changes. My partner and I now have a technique to use when we’re arguing, and it enables us to quickly arrive at a space of mutual understanding where we used to escalate our conflict and go around in circles. Using NVC with the children, I feel as if there’s been a marked increase in their cooperation and my understanding, and our house is a more harmonious place as a result."Polly, Far North
Hi Jocelyn, I just want to let you know how different [my husband] is, since his sessions with you. He is calmer, more present, much more able to hear what is being said without leaving the room, he listens to my feedback and responses more often, it has really been a very significant change. Thank you for your part in his changing!!CJ, Auckland
“I have attended many communication courses over the years and found Jocelyn’s course had something extra to offer. I use the NVC principles in my work and in my personal life and have noticed some profound differences in the way people respond to me. I thoroughly recommend this course.”Rebecca Ranum